Remembering…You Are More Than A Mom!


Part of Homeschool Survival is in fact surviving! As a homeschool mother, I often find myself forgetting that I am also a person outside of the mom role. Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids…I love being at home with them and teaching them…I am so incredibly blessed and thankful that God has called me to this adventure. However, I do have to be reminded that I am More Than A Mom!

Moms have a lot on their plates, period. Some choose to homeschool their children and some do not. There are also working mothers among us, some within the home and some outside of the home.  But something we all have in common, is the household demands placed on us, the worry and demands of rearing children, being wives, taxi drivers, cooks, etc…

So the question is, how do you remain a sense of yourself among all the demands that you face? How do you handle the “you” area of your life?

A friend of mine who is a veteran homeschool mom offered me this advice,

“I encourage you “younger” mothers to make the effort to be your own person as well as “Mom”. Now that most of my children are independent adults, I have had some difficulty deciding just who I am these days. Not a crisis or anything like that but changing roles…..I know it seems hard but, frankly, unless you carve out time for yourself now– you never will.”

This is a task that I am constantly working on. I have often said that my role and goal as a mother is to work myself out of a job. I want my children to leave home with the ability to care for themselves and others the way I would. That is just it…they will leave home… then what?

I am trying to do a better job about carving out time for myself. In fact, Hubby has volunteered to watch the kiddos one night a week and let me get out of the house. Not for shopping or running errands but for REAL me time. “ME” time doesn’t have to cost much or even be away form the house. Sometimes I might just sneak off and fold laundry in a different room by myself. I find that the time alone or with girlfriends makes me a better wife, mother and yes ME!

Since this is an area of my life that is a work in progress I polled the audience!

Here are some of the ideas that I received…

  • Most importantly have regular quiet times with the Lord! Get into the word, play worship music and bask in the presence of the Almighty.
  • Pamper yourself! Have regular appointments to get your hair done, nails done, or even a massage. (or even do it yourself at home AWAY from the kids)
  • Sneak off for a hot bubble bath in the quiet sanctuary of the bathroom.
  • Plan regular date nights with your hubby. It doesn’t even have to be outside your home. Sometimes we stick the kids in bed early and just talk, play board games or watch a movie.
  • Join a sports league.
  • Head to the gym or out for a walk. While you’re at it, listen to YOUR music.
  • Read a book that doesn’t have cardboard pages or children’s characters!
  • Make a list of things you always dreamed of doing and make it happen. A friend of mine always dreamed of owning a milk cow and now she does!
  • Take up a hobby of your very own. Get crafty and creative!
  • Record your favorite tv show and watch it when the kids are in bed.
  • Make time to visit with your friend. Either take the kids for a play date and chat or just go grab a coffee together.
  • Spend time outdoors. Garden, bike ride, hike or hunt. Just being outside in the fresh air will lift your spirits and leave you refreshed!
  • Attend mom night outs at your homeschool group or church.
  • And of course….Blog haha!

I hope you can use some of these ideas to re-claim your identity. We are in this together! Remember that a happy you, makes a happy family and homeschool. We are MORE than moms!

About Emmalee

Emmalee is a mother of three beautiful girls, ages 6, 5 & 2. She also works full time operating a childcare from her home. She and her family live in rural Southeast Kansas and enjoy the country life on their growing “Triple-A-Farm.” She enjoys the outdoors, being in the kitchen and diving into God's word. Emmalee also has a passion for children and family kingdom ministries. She blogs at, where she shares a hodgepodge of recipes, craft ideas, homeschooling tips, resources and devotions.


  1. These suggestions are so good, but with so many kids (11- 10 still at home) the only one I can manage right now is parents night out at church or the occasional ladies Bible study. You’re so right. I only ever seem to identify myself as homeschooling mother of 11. That’s something I need to work on.

    • I know with 11 it must be extremely difficult. Hubby and I also occasionally have in home date nights when the kids are put to bed early. They don’t have to go to sleep right away but they have to stay in their rooms. Then we set the table like we are at a nice restaurant and eat together just the two of us.

  2. Thank you so much for this reminder. It is hard sometimes remembering to be my own person. That’s so sad to admit. As women, our lives revolve around our spouse and children. Now I’ll be sure to do a little something for me everyday!

  3. Such a great post Emmalee!!! I love your suggestions and your right on with the truth of these words~ you are so right in putting time alone with God as your #1 suggestion!

    Another thing I’ve done is claim any and all bathroom and getting ready time as MY OWN!!!! The kids know if Mama’s getting ready, even in her bedroom, to stay out and knock if they really think they need me! Sounds silly but those couple of minutes of peace every day help out!!!

    Keep writing! Great Post!

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