Good Mom – Bad Mom Battle Tips to Sleep



Swoosh… our head hits the pillow. It’s the end of a long day. Moments of the day flash through our mind. Suddenly, our heart is heavy as we remember the moments we blew it. Then gut wrenching guilt follows and overtakes our weary mind. Thus, the good mom bad mom battle wages war in our heart and mind.

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Many offer advice. Some dispense their counsel unsolicited, dumping their failures in our lap expecting us to follow their suit of negativity. Everyone evaluates our parenting, even strangers. However, we are often our own worst enemy.

We have our expectations of how we want to raise our kids. Then the added pressure to please family.  Finally, the ever changing of our community that seems to keep the bar raised just out of our reach.  Our pursuit of being a good mom comes from our deep desire to give our families our best. Therefore when we miss the mark, even slightly, we beat ourselves up.

Mothering takes sacrifice, homeschooling requires our vitality. We know this. To keep control and to stay on task we use scrutiny as a form of self-discipline. Typically fear is found at the root of control. Because our love runs so deep for our family we are tripped by control and fall into the bondage of fear.

We fear failing our family. We fear failing as a mother. We fear failing our kids and their education. Satan knows this, (he waited for Jesus to become weary in the wilderness). So he prowls at the end of the day when our hearts are tired and weary, and then at just the right moment he SNAPS at us with fear – in order to steal, kill, and destroy.

The good news is Jesus came to give life and give it more abundantly! We can be released from the bondage of fear and walk in freedom of grace.

Fear distorts our belief. We think to be a good mom:

  • We should spend every waking hour with our child, entertaining them.
  • If something is wrong with our child, it’s our fault.
  • We must over indulge our child with a full schedule and toys.
  • We need to be the one who cares for our kids, no one else, not even our husbands.
  • Complete all the household chores without help from our kids.

When our parenting is fueled by fear we lose the purpose God has for our life. To regain perspective, we need rest. Sleep deprivation comes free with motherhood. There are seasons that poor sleeping habits are unavoidable. During those seasons guard your heart and your mind, accept grace. You are a good mom!

Tips For Finding Rest.

  1. When you lay in bed and suddenly struck by fear, turn that fear into a faith filled prayer.
  2. Instead of scrolling through your social media at night, scroll through your bible app.
  3. Keep a note book by your bed, write down concerns, and let them go.
  4. Remember you good moments too.
  5. Count your blessings.

Momma, if God needed to rest on the seventh day…you definitely need rest! Long term investments do not bring instant results.  The work you are doing on a day in, day out basis seems monotonous. Keep in mind you are working towards a much bigger prize by investing in your family and it takes time. Your investment will pay off in the long term. Enjoy the journey. For more encouragement become a member of Schoolhouse Teachers and gain access to my daily column  JOY IN THE MORNING.

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30 NIV

Image Credit: “Worried Young Woman On Bed” by David Castillo Dominici


Michelle Pohl - BloomingwithJoy.comMichelle is a storyteller who encourages her readers to begin Blooming with Joythrough every chaotic moment, disappointment, and mess. Her readers keep her motivated to be real with life and laugh at her mistakes. Michelle is reformed coffee addict turned devoted tea drinker. She lives in Missouri, USA with her husband and homeschools her three daughters. Shas experienced God’s peace while enduring life’s many messes; childhood abuse, motherhood, miscarriage, and homeschooling. All the while, allowing God to trade her ashes for beauty. She has learned we can begin Blooming With Joy through every obstacle when our Hope is in Jesus!  You can visit her on her blog, Blooming With JoyFacebookTwitter and Pinterest.


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